By bf and me (F) have been together a bit under a year. Our sex is pretty vanilla but really intimate (which I personally like), it's mostly missionary and cowgirl, with us alternating who is in charge. (Plus oral and had play)
Now he mentioned casually that we could spice things up a bit and I'm all for it, so I asked him what he'd like to try and he just doesn't say.
He has a bit of communication problem in general, I don't know if he's too shy to admit what he likes or if he's ashamed that he doesn't know what he likes. I try to lead by example by telling him what I like or guiding him but that doesn't seem to inspire him to do the same.
I don't know if he means doing more positions or something more kinky and I'm open to many things (other than anal or humiliation for me).
We did alternate positions more in the past but somehow kind of stopped. Maybe he'd like me to guide position changes physically? But I'm not sure how to do that as a woman without flat out saying it.
I'd really like to make things more enjoyable for both of us but I'm a bit lost here as to how either make him communicate better or just flat out take charge.