I (27F) am fairly new to sex. I am not looking for a long term relationship, just have been exploring myself sexually. I came across this guy that I'd been casually seeing for a while. This one I sent to town with first tried to make it about how I cannot make him cum, which tbh was a big lie because 5 mins in my first time going down on him, he stopped literally held my head because he didn't want to come that quickly. This happened thrice. Then he started with something like "I bet you can't make me come" and I was so confused which made me slow down and I told him that that's because he is holding back on purpose. He said that he has to make himself
Then somewhere in the middle he wanted me to say "yes daddy" to whatever he was saying, always about in the lines of challenging me that I can't make him come, that I need to try harder.
I don't know if I missed a point here. What is this, some sort of a power play? It was the most off putting thing I came across. No, I don't intend to fuck him again.
For some reason, writing this made me feel a little disgusted. Was I supposed to feel inadequate or insecure, was I supposed to work harder as he was telling me? Why not just have sex? Why not just fuck because both of us want to? Where did all this even come from?
I'd really appreciate an input here because I am soo confused.