I F27 have been single for almost 2 years. I took time off from dating given that the state of the dating pool has deteriorated into people wanting superficial short term connections and not something real and i wanted to focus on myself and learning to love myself again. I feel like guys ive dated, they were really nice and giving in the beginning and it felt like they liked me truly but then as time went on they grew bored of me and didnt seem like they enjoyed hanging out with me actually. I’d love to ideally marry my best friend. Someone who really enjoys just talking and hanging out and staying up late to talk about random topics, go get food at 3am, do spontaneous trips. I want someone who enjoys me as a person. Sees me more than a child bearing woman who can cook and clean. I feel like thats all ive been deduced to in all my relationships. Just a woman with no substance. Ideally i would love to be a trad wife. I love taking care of people and I’d love to take care of my future husband, thats not an issue. But i am also more than someone who can offer care. I have hobbies, i like to travel, i think i have a bit of humor and can keep up with witty fast paced banter, i have a strong and well sculpted outlook on life and my views on the world. Maybe i just choose the wrong men. Or maybe it’s something wrong with me. I just want someone who loves being with me


9 comments

  1. I think this is a common feeling for both men and women.

    That being said, genuine question. What are the traits you like about yourself that aren’t related to what you do for other people?

  3. Sorry but complaining about being seen as being of “no substance” and then “ideally I would be a trad wife” right after is kinda a contradiction in terms.

  4. Wanting someone who actually values you and not just what you can give them is such a real struggle. It’s not that there’s something wrong with you, it’s more about finding someone who aligns with what you want in a relationship. The fact that you know yourself, what you bring to the table, and what you’re looking for is already a huge step in the right direction. Don’t settle for people who only see a part of you; the right one will appreciate all of it.

  5. i understand how it feels i 2 wish someone would be interested in my hobbies what i like to do not just (that) tbh i have gotten tired of it even though i have never even more then hugged a girl

    also sadly all my girlfriends? were online so yaa i have asked girls i have talked to for their numbers and ya 😞

    But anyway, my advice is to stay strong we will always find a mate in the end that we enjoy their time together

  7. Dont blame yourself okay this day and age is pretty tricky to find the right one but I believe you’ll meet someone who will accept you and treat you like the queen you are. Stay positive and keep your head up. 🤗

  8. Think there is still work to be done on that ‘learning to love myself’ goal of the break from dating – otherwise why is the question being turned back into whether there is something wrong with you?

  9. Are we the same person??? Holy cow. It feels like we’re the rare ones these days, wanting a healthy and long lasting marriage. I think the more you pour into yourself, the more you attract good people into your life. Join community groups, go out and do what makes you happy. Things always happen when we aren’t looking for it. And in the meantime, know you aren’t alone 😊

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