Hi,
I’ve posted on here before about this scenario so it’s kind of an update.
Backstory, me 23M and this girl 25F have been past coworkers for 2-3 years. I figured she had a little crush on me. We always had great chemistry as friends but i didn’t have interest bc i had a gf. But now, recently (2 1/2ish months ago, we talked for about 1 1/2 month) we stopped talking about a month ago.
So, reason being she feels that she isn’t able to give me 100%, but also a big concern is that she thinks i should be single for a little bit and not jump into something serious. Mind you, she has said to me that i never made her feel like a rebound, nor made her make her think i wanted her for sex. She decided to end it bc i asked her at the start that we don’t drag this on without a label. So she honored my wishes later on to prevent hurt on both parties.
When she ended it, i could tell how much i mean to her. And how difficult it was for her because her feelings were clearly conflicted on her final decision. She thinks we could be together in a couple of months if i’m open to it and we both take some time apart. She was crying in the car saying that she doesn’t want to but she wants us both to be 100%. My friend also told me, that she told him that she was crying for over a week after we ended.
So a month later of No contact, i decided to reach out. Not anything crazy, i just said i was thinking about her and i miss seeing her and apologized if me saying that was overstepping. she said im not overstepping, and we continued to banter back in forth for a little bit since one of our strongest parts of our connection is how much we make eachother laugh. she also responded instantly when i reached out and she kept texting fast when she really isn’t a texter. I didn’t ask to eat or anything tho because i want to honor her wishes of taking time apart, but ive never liked a girl like this before so it’s kind of eating me alive.
Does anyone think it would be a good idea to reach out in a couple of weeks, or maybe another month? I just need some advice, from women or men. I know she likes me alot, she’s one of the most mature people i’ve ever met and i really can’t let this go without at least getting a straight forward answer for the future. Anyone have an idea on what i should do?