I’m around 20 and just started seeing a guy who’s 27. We hooked up for the first time over the weekend, and he made some comments about my body that really shook my self-esteem.
I’m pear-shaped—slim with wider hips and smaller breasts. I exercise regularly and always felt decent about my body. But while we were lying in bed right after, he pointed out that my breasts are as small as his pecs, said I have a slight ‘pouch’ instead of a flat stomach, and called my butt jiggly. He also remarked that I’m paler than he expected for a Latina, adding, “It’s not a big deal, I just thought you’d be tanner.” I felt exposed and told him I was caught off guard by his critiques.
He brushed it off, saying my body is “totally fine” and that he cares more about a pretty face than a great figure. I’ve never dealt with such direct criticism before. He’s keen to meet up again, but I’m feeling really self-conscious. My past relationships haven’t been great, mostly because of a rough childhood, so I’m already prone to self-doubt. These comments don’t feel right, do they?