So I (25f) have been with my fiancé (29m) for 3 years. Our sex life is great and while we’re both very satisfied in the bedroom, I also have a lot of fantasies that he doesn’t also share himself.
These include things like exhibitionism, having three/sums and being shared.
The longer we’re together the more I think real hard about where he stands with it. And even where I stand with it. I could see myself going my whole life without acting out any of these fantasies, as I’m already very fulfilled in our regular sex life and all my kinks that don’t involve bringing in another person, are all well fulfilled. And although I think i could DO it, i just know I’ll always have that longing and curiosity for it.
But I know where he stands on this, and that’s that he would never in a million years be okay with it. He’s happy to fulfill all my needs together, but he’s made it clear that he wouldn’t never be okay with anything like a three some of god forbid cucking.
I don’t know this stance of his because I asked him personally, i know his stance because it’s been brought up in conversation after an incident where a new friend he made ended up trying to get us to swing with him and his wife. My fiancé made it clear he would never be okay with that, and then expanded the conversation to talking about how he just doesn’t understand the concept of “sharing” and it would break his heart.
Now, I completely understand that and think it’s a valid way for him to feel. I don’t think he should try and change his stance or agree to let me do something despite him being uncomfortable with it.
But I guess I’m just wondering, has anyone else experienced this? Is it easy to go on and be generally fulfilled and just know you’ll never live out that fantasy scenario?
It’s not like a deal breaker to me by any means, but more and more often I’ve been finding myself dreaming about being shared. Like, stuffed with cock in my face, using my other hands to jerk off another while getting fucked from the back. Or getting fucked and filled while my husband watches. Or I even imagining scenarios with his friends all sharing me.
And that’s the funny thing, is i wouldn’t want it to expand into anything emotional or turn into a full open relationship or poly type thing- no no. Just our sex life I would like to have these types of things sometimes. But i know it’s not something i could ever bring up with him because i just don’t think it would be worth it. Again, I’m very fulfilled with him and not looking for emotional sex from anyone else, it’s just a fantasy. Is it easy to go forever without fulfilling it? I truly love my fiancé