So I have this friend that I’ve know for about 3 years or so. We would exchange voice memos often talking about a lot of things during the work week. Occasionally we would find them to hang out on the weekends too. She eventually moved into a larger city about an hour away so we would only hang out every few months due to our availability and the voice memos eventually stopped. But there’s been a few things that she’s said or done that gave bothered me that I haven’t had a chance to confront her about since I was waiting for work to be less busy / to see if it was something that actually bothered me that was worth mentioning.
-Recently, she gave away her cat to me and she originally planned for us to drive down to pick him up since she didn’t have a car. However the day of, she texted me about an hour before saying she hadn’t slept yet since she was out all night so we had to reschedule to the middle of the week where she took an uber up to drop off the cat. It saved us a drive but I still felt disappointed that we had to reschedule simply since she was out not for another reason. It made me feel like she wasn’t reliable & I couldn’t depend on her for things.
-Something she’s joked around before is that if it wasn’t for me she doesn’t think we’d be friends (I’m a planner / type A person that usually always coordinates hangouts among any friends) and I’ve had friends before who say something similar so I just assume that planning / organizing isn’t their thing so I take that role & have tried to be more accepting. But recently, I had a different friend that told me that the friend has been inviting her out to go out since she just went through a break up (they met at a few of my gatherings). Which I thought was strange since it made me feel like she had the capacity to plan but she just wasn’t doing for me, but for one my friends?
So I’m trying to see the best way to approach this since I still would like for her to be in my life but I’m also wondering if maybe we’re not just compatible as friends anymore?