I want other peoples opinion. AITA. I(30M) and my gf(31F) have been together for 5 years now.
Our sex used to be a bit better and we always talked about trying new kinks. So that would give me hope for the future. It has been 5 years now of her saying she will try but nothing really changes. I love to eat her out but when it comes time to me getting sucked off she can’t do it for more than 2 minutes before she complains her jaw hurts or something else. Just expects me to get hard like a porn star and have sex with her. I love sensual to wild, depending on the day but I feel like we are just not on the same page about sex and it’s making me feel like going elsewhere to satisfy my kinks. I don’t want to cheat but I also cannot live like this. My ex girlfriend and I were very sexually active and explored kinks. I think that’s what’s left me feeling kind of empty. Once you’ve seen/tried something you like, you can’t just shove it back in the box and forget about it.My current gf is way better of a person but the sex has been lacking. We just had sex but she barely wanted to suck me and she never ever swallows my loads even though she keeps saying she will… I just don’t know what to do anymore but I feel like it’s coming down to me either shutting up and getting used to this vanilla life( which will not make me happy in the long run) or breaking up. I’ve tried to talk to her about this but I don’t think she understands how empty this feeling is for me before I finally make up my mind and decide to break up. Has anyone dealt with this and has it gotten better for them?