Two friends ghosted me in the past two years. One was also an employee in our sister team and basically we see each other everyday. He suddenly stopped making eye contact, stopped talking with me, and when I asked a few times something along the lines of "what is going on" or "I am sad that we are not talking" he simply ignore. It is now two years, we still pass each other multiple times a day, and he still woudlnt make eye contact. I absolutely have no idea what I have done.
Then the other friend met up with me after around a year when we tried to meet multiple times and each time it failed. We had food, walked around the city, said good buy. I sent her some advice about a hiking route because she wanted to do the same rout. She didnt respond but I absolutely didnt think anything out of it. 3 months later, I sent a message if she is up to meet, no reponse. Next day again asking, no reponse. 1 month later, asking why she wouldnt respond, no answer again. Meanwhile, she would watch all my status updates of my travels on whatsapp.
These two incidents break my heart deeply. Additionally, I get a lot of energy in being with people, it makes me really happy and hopeful for life. But in general, I feel I am always more interested in initiating contact, planning and inviting people, asking them to have food together, etc. I recently noticed that it is only me who asks a female colleague if she likes to go to lunch together. Now I will never ask her again. And I feel sad because I thought I have now found a new friend.