I'm a bit embarrassed to post this but this but I feel I need to learn more about sex so here goes.
I'm a trans woman(21) and have been on hormones for about a year and a half.
In the past ten months I went from having never having held hands or kissed to being sexually active. I've had three different partners this far and I intend on continuing. But problematically I've never been able to finish, nor make any of my three partners finish either which is the worst of it.
This makes me feel bad. Preferably I would finish but it's ok if I don't. However I do want my partner to finish! It's like I can't please them properly and makes me a bit scared that they thinks I'm that kind of person who is terrible at sex. And seeing as all my partners weren't able to cum with me I assume I must be the issue.
On my end it's like my arousal is all over the place, I'm very turned on during cuddles, but as soon as we get to jerking each other off, the magic kinda goes away and I'd rather not.
It's like I wish sex was only foreplay because I'm always pretty near to finishing when doing foreplay but then my partners usually want to start touching genitals and like I said, the magic goes away…
I don't want the orgasm to be the goal of the experience I want to spend time physically close to my partner and enjoy myself, but I also feel as though they might want to finish and cuddles aren't enough for them.
What do you think?
Before you ask I will bring this up to my current partner when I see her but that won't be for another week or so…