I’m a female in my early twenties, and I believe I’ve never had an orgasm in my life. I’ve only had two partners, but I’ve tried everything that’s considered vanilla with my committed partner (solo-play, with a partner, clitoral, penetration “both ways”, nipples play).
One time, during sex with them, I almost blacked out from a sudden rush and then felt really happy and calm afterwards… is this considered an actual, “real” orgasm? When I mentioned this to my boyfriend, he said no (lol).
I mention SA, because in my teenagehood, I’ve had multiple sexual traumas. I think something wired in my brain doesn’t allow me to orgasm because of this, even though I’ve healed from my trauma and have a comfortable, content sex life. Any other survivors struggle with this?
Any advice or speculation if my experience is an orgasm? Is it normal to never orgasm (as a woman) even if you have sex/masturbate regularly healthily.
Throw away account because I’m really embarrassing and dumb.