I (20F) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for around 7 months. At the beginning of our relationship we never actually had sex, just did other sexual things. Around 2 months ago we attempted to have sex, and he couldn’t get or stay hard. He told me that it was performance anxiety, and the condom doesn’t help with that apparently. We have tried so many times since then, and he can never get or stay hard. It’s extremely frustrating for both of us. He has no problem getting hard when he’s fingering me or i’m jerking him off or whatever, it’s just for the sex. I do not get sex from him, and I want it, bad. I am the one who initiates 95% of everything we do. He barely ever does. I asked him why this morning, and he told me sometimes he just can’t keep up. I do not believe i have a high sex drive, I believe my sex drive is normal and his is just low. This is extremely frustrating because my needs are not being met, but also I don’t want him to do things he is uncomfortable with. It just doesn’t feel normal. I think he is putting so much pressure to perform well during the sex that he gets in his head about it. I think this all goes back to him not being able to get hard for sex and I don’t know what to do about it.