I am a Dom by nature and my wife is a brat. We love sex and try everything that catches each of our interests and I genuinely love our life together… however after 16 years I am still so deeply in love with her, I wish to only to please and appreciate her. To the extent I feel I can't fall fully into my dom role because I am afraid to go to hard on her… we communicate and talk a lot and she says I can go harder and that I do satisfy her very well, but I feel I can do better. If only I wasn't so afraid of hurting her unintentionally… any suggestions on getting past my insecurity???