So I’m in my third, possibly second depending on exam results year of uni, and I have no idea what to do when I want to meet up with people. I kinda missed the formative years of socialising and hanging out because I had a mobile phone addiction and never passed my driving test, and now I’m a little stuck. But I want to have a bit of fun before I graduate uni, and all I’ll be able to do is meet up with a friend for a fifteen minute after work coffee once a month.
What’s, like, the general approach to take?
How well do I have to know people?
Can I grab random people out of my societies?
Can I just message them out of the blue, or do I have to build up to it first?
How often can I ask without appearing weird/creepy/rude/pushy?
How do I ask my female friends without accidentally looking like I’m asking them out?
How do I get a bigger group going?
How do I set up for big events, like all those house parties I see everyone else holding?
How do I get to the level where they’re just randomly showing up at my house for fun, like those tight-knit friend groups I see everyone else have?
How do I know if someone genuinely can’t come, or if they don’t like me and are just being polite?
How do I get over the crippling fear that often hits me just as I’m about to do something social?
Sorry for the large bombardment of questions. I just have a lot to learn and a very short time to do it in.