So I’m not sure how to write this and I’m kind of in a hurry. But my husband and I have been in counseling for a few months and it’s been going well. I’ve been trying to be humble and go along with “we both contributed to our marriage falling apart”. But I’ve recently just had to admit to myself, that I have been fighting for our marriage and for my husband to be nice to me and be a team. Yes I have been a bitch a lot for a few years and I definitely have things to work on. But the things he has done have been so detrimental to our relationship and have hurt me so much and it took me finally saying I just want a separation for him to take me seriously that we have issues and we need help. So honestly, I really don’t feel like I have much to apologize for and take accountability for. The things I know I need to work on I have taken accountability for. But he’s still blaming me or not taking accountability for the ways he has hurt me. I feel like we need to talk about this at our next marriage counseling session but I can’t imagine any situation where saying “actually I think our marriage falling apart is mostly your fault” is going to go well….but it’s honestly how I feel and sugar coating it all seems to be enabling him to continue blaming me for his actions and lack of accountability. Idk if I’m even wording it right. But I don’t want to make him feel like a horrible person. I just want him to understand the damage that he has caused and do better….because he can’t do better if he doesn’t even admit it’s a problem. Ughhhh marriage is hard.