Since had my baby it’s been amazing I love the little one sooo much! But I am exhausted!!! It’s three months and i am officially burnt out!! I need help but I don’t know what to do…my husband is great but he works all the time, I really want my mum to come and stay with me for like 4-5 days a week she really wants to do this but unfortunately she’s still got a house to pay off and she can’t retire early! So she can’t offer me this support. My mil is 10 mins away she’s never worked and has free time all the time and if it was up to her she would be over every day and she can help me every day, we get on fine and I have no issue with her, BUT since I had my baby I just feel like I can’t be myself without her throwing a few comments about what I should and shouldn’t be doing, also I find that she hogs all the time with my baby, all she wants to do is just spend time with baby, so basically she can’t help me with cleaning or anything else around the house, now I can do cleaning and all that myself but I do that right now and spend all my time with my baby, basically I find it uncomfortable having her around all the time, I just feel comfortable with my own mum I can tell her how I want things and she knows exactly what kind of help I need and she never makes comments when it comes to how I am doing things etc as a new. I really don’t know what to do.
I’m thinking about just giving in and letting my mil come over but I find some things she does too much, like I want to raise my child how I want to and she just interferes to much, for example if I’m feeding baby or changing nappy she’s on stand by to take baby away soon as I’m done or she’ll help change nappy, she doesn’t do anything else like tidy up or clean up or help with washing or cook, she cooks like 1-2 meals a week for us, but my husband eats sooo much omg and I’m breast feeding so I need good healthy nutritional meals, a few times she’s been over we end up getting take away, cause there no way I’m gonna start cooking for everyone!!! It’s exhausting! She came round recently and my husband ended up cooking… she did absolutely nothing and my husband ironed all the clothes and cleaned the kitchen, my husband keeps telling me to ask her for help but tbh I just feel like I can’t cause she might take offence because of my requests and how I like to do things, we had a bit to an argument once and I feel so uncomfortable around her right now and tbh all I want is my mum who gets me and understands through this very difficult time cause I’m so burnt out!
Don’t know what to do…