I'm a woman who embraces gym life and will admit it is a part of my identity. I'd love to meet a guy who is similar, but am turned off by the stereotypical gym bro types. It's a weird dilemma, and not fair to assume that every fit man is that guy. I am no longer interested in using dating apps, and approaching/being approached at the gym is sort of taboo. Not exactly looking for advice, just venting into the void. đŸ„Ž


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  1. It’s possible to find someone like that. I work out at the park and do some exercise at home. I dont go to the gym. Maybe start going to the local parks where people do sports and walk/run around. I met a lot of people that way.

  2. I mean it might be seen as taboo but it’s probably the best way to meet someone locally. Don’t think about approaching it that way, just ask about a machine or something and start there

  3. I workout at home because gym culture isn’t for me. So I understand what you are saying.

    I’m rarely on hiking trails but when I hike on trails I see the guys you’re looking for.

  5. Usually, these guys are working out alone, early in the morning or late at night. They are efficient and spend very little time on the phone or socializing. In and out. Usually lean and more crossfit-like than jacked or ripped.

    Cardio days, you might see them reading on a stationary bike.

  6. as a guy who was once going to the gym 6-7 times a week, I just wanna say that it is annoying when you say you workout and are immediately labeled a gym bro. in fact that label is one of a few reasons I stopped going so often. like I’m an intelligent person with semi interesting interests, hobbies passions etc. just bc i like to workout that supersedes my identity? bullshit. and i get it, trust me I do, I’ve met these intolerable gym bros and I hate them too. I want no association with them. but do i have to ditch the gym entirely to ditch this association with them? on the flip, some of my best friends have ended up being guys i initially labeled as typical gym bros who ended up being truly lovely human beings with amazing personalities. they just also happen to go hard in the gym. so hey, maybe keep your mind a lil more open? idk, good luck out there

  7. So, gym goer but not “gym bro” here. I actually met my gf at the gym.
    Basically, we’d made eye contact and had friendly interactions and just started having slightly longer conversations before we decided to move forward with having a relationship.
    After talking for a little while, she told me that she had observed how I acted and interacted with people around me and saw the vibe was good.
    I’m not saying that your situation will be identical to mine. But what i can say is that it’s not impossible to find someone at the gym who meets your standards and who lives a gym-like lifestyle.
    Don’t lose hope. If you find someone attractive, just be casual and have a small interaction. Even compliments on their form or consistency. Don’t be afraid.
    And if the vibes are right, go for it. Don’t lose out on the possibilities of a good condition 😊.

  8. It’s not that weird. Gym bros tend to make working out a core part of their identity. If you go to the gym but don’t have that experience then it’s not weird to look for that in a partner.

    Like I like to play pokemon but people who watch the cartoon and have the t shirts and moderate the sites don’t appeal to me in more than a conversational way.

  9. I go to the gym 6 times a week, I run 10k on my rest day, I talk to absolutely no one in the gym and don’t talk about it with my friends until I’m asked. I turned 50 last Tuesday. This discipline has changed my life and I’m very grateful. Wouldn’t change it for the world. I don’t even know what a Gym Bro is

  12. well define gym bro? like somebody who walks around with a shaker bottle and talks about “hitting protein” all the time? or just somebody who goes to the gym a few times a week?

  13. As a 39 year old man and a veteran, I observed gym bro behavior through out my 20s and into my 30s. I was also friends with a few guys who were in their 30s while I was in my 20s. The douchey gym bro behavior is far more prevalent with guys in their 20s than it is with guys in their 30s. Not to say there weren’t outliers. For instance I never got into the whole gym culture thing even when I did go everyday. And I knew and know plenty of 30+ year olds who are still douchey gym bros where it’s not just apart of their personality, it IS their personality. Basically what I’m saying, as testosterone wains, so will the stereotypical gym bro. That wasn’t super helpful, but I did say a lot.

  14. Ur lame, gym bros are literally the best, sweetest guys. something about a man who’s twice my size but still has a soft spot for me is just really appealing idk

  17. So a guy who’s goes to the gym 3-4 days a week is fit and takes care of himself but the gym isn’t there personality you’ll find that guy keep looking I know they exist

  18. I’m assuming by “gym bro” you mean a bit of a douche and they think since they’re attractive they can treat women like shit and act like a dick?

  19. As a man I can honestly say that I have seen my fair share of women I find attractive, but I certainly wouldn’t ever approach them only because when I go to the gym its to workout not really socialize that much. In fact I just met someone during my workout the other day whos pretty chill and a few others. But tbh idk how other people are, I am dedicated and have enjoyment when I complete my sets and increase resistance so I am more focused on finishing my workout as I am pressed for time than I am getting to know someone.

  20. i feel you girl. i observed guys who were taking selfies in the mirror EVERY TIME i was in the gym too (few times a week đŸ„Ž) – i guess it’s a gym bro sign lol

  21. Also a man that works out who is not a gym bro. I have an extensive home gym to stay away from the hassles of commercial gyms I’m sure there’s quite a few like me. Hate waiting for equipment and the gym culture as a whole. Just appreciate working out and staying in good shape

  23. reminds me of my party days, when I went out dancing and drinking when I was single,

    I was hoping / imagining meeting >the< guy when I go out.

    But then again I didn’t want a guy who partied to 3 am like I did. But I would want him to want someone who partied until 3 am. Kind of a double standard, and no in the end I didn’t find him there 😀

    I wouldn’t exclude meeting him at the gym out of principle. Let it happen when it happens, give it a chance 🙂

  24. So, out of curiosity, where is the balance point of being a guy who works out but isn’t a gym bro? Had to ask. Lol

  26. What differentiates a gym bro type and the type of guy that you are looking for?

    Is it just a certain attitude while exercising? Or the way that they exercise?

  27. I imagine the she means it’s there entire personality and they spend most of there free time at the gym whereas who maybe spends an hour or two in the gym a few times a week. That was my assumption anyway

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