Advise greatly appreciated. My wife wants to give her sister money for basic expenses. Here's the problem. My sister in law has a deadbeat boyfriend who barely works. He has drained her bank account nearly dry because she has to pay for everything. The whole family knows that this guy is manipulating my sis in law, but my wife's parents have been giving her money anyway. The real solution is to get her away from the boyfriend, but she's in denial. I told my wife that we cannot give her sis money because it only reinforces a bad situation. Now, my wife is mad at me. I love my sis in law, but until she accepts facts and dumps this guy, the money requests will keep coming and will keep getting bigger. I think everyone reading this has seen a situation like this play out. How can I be sensitive to my wife without getting she and I caught up in this mess?