I am struggling with my and my boyfriend’s sex life. We have been together for almost 2 years and we used to have sex far more often and now he doesn’t want to as much anymore. Yet he still teases me by grabbing my ass, tits at like any given time possible and just leaves me hanging. I’ve told him multiple times not to do that if he’s not going to finish it. On top of that I feel very unwanted because I’m not the usual body type he’d go for but he swears it’s not because of that and that he still finds me sexy. We talked about what he minds and why he doesn’t want to have sex and it turns out that
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he hates when I complain during it. I’m a very anxious individual and I always ask him if he put on the condom correctly, if no one can hear us etc. I understand it can be exhausting but I don’t know how else to calm my fears
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he can’t feel anything with the condom on and is essentially only doing it (sex) for me
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he feels pressured when I want to have sex. I don’t even know what to say about this, my
drive is high I’d have sex every day if I could but I’d never force him. I subtly give hints I’m in the mood by slipping tongue while kissing and other stuff but he always tells me he doesn’t want to right now or that we can in the evening and then he changes his mind again
EDIT: I forgot to add that he turns down non penetrative sex too. So even when I initiate a blowjob or something he doesn’t want that either and I have no reason to complain during that.
How can this be solved?? How can we compromise?