i guess this is my hurt ego talking, but i live in spain and i just matched with a guy i met at a party months ago, with whom i had a platonic vibe going, and he walked me home. he was taken at the time. he's single now. we follow each other on insta. anyway, he unmatched me immediately, and my insecurity makes no sense cause the dude lowkey makes me cringe and i was thinking of unmatching, just wanted to see if we would match. so it's really a non-problem. but it got me thinking about this other actual problem:
i have never gone out with a guy who lives in my country. i have never gone out with a guy from my country. i have not. and it is ridiculous to me. the only reason i've ever dated, is because of dating apps. my city is extremely tourist-centric, and i guess tourists are just more happy to go out, have free time, etc. i have only dated tourists and don't even blame me, my friends are the exact same.
the good thing is ive actually found some brilliant wonderful aamzing men who were visiting, but long-distance is shit. i know how to logically combat the issue, but using dating apps and having to ignore the 70% of tourists on the app is actually ridiculous (also cause the men from my area are literally meh).
in my 22 years of living i have never been approached by a spanish guy, not physically, not even been friends with one, and i have dated 6 foreign men. do the math. i know this is just a matter of circumstance more than anything, but i have no idea whats wrong with spanish men. i don't want to generalize but spanish men have treated me disgustingly, in cold ways and this unmatch just proved it to me.
i accept being the problem somehow but i seem to date successfully out of this country just fine. it depresses me as i would actually choose a man who lived near me in a heartbeat.