I got married to my husband a year ago. We’re both military and currently i’m deployed and we have a 12 hour time zone difference currently. Lately, for the past 6 months, it feels like all the energy in our marriage has gone out the door, but i feel absolutely insane when I bring it up cause he says everything is fine. But we used to facetime every day, not it’s not even once a week (partly due to us working & the timezones.) But also our texting has gone down. He responds maybe once every hour, if that, and somehow can leave the conversation as soon as he sends the texts. He’s usually playing a video game or he’s out with his friends. He also doesn’t compliment me or say about sweet to me. He only says I love you when i say it first. Usually we would even say “Goodnight i love you” before going to bed but he often forgets to do that or he only says “laying down” I also am kind of scared to bring this up cause i’ve brought it before and he makes me feel like i just rely on him too much to be happy. and if i bring it up, it’ll probably just cause more distance in our marriage. But isn’t it weird that we can go day long for practically 6 months only talking 2-3 times throughout the day??? I genuinely feel like i’m going insane. All i want to do is talk to him cause i miss him cause it feels like he’s gone from my life. Am i just being over bearing ?? Or attached ?? I don’t know what to but i’m so sad in our marriage.
I understand that i’m probably currently spiraling and none of this probably makes sense. I just need advice / something to help! If anyone has ideas what to say to him that would help too 😞