I 27M went out with this girl 29F a couple of weeks ago and she was amazing in person. Conversation flowed, she told me she thought I was cute and easy to talk to, and when I recommended this one place to her she suggested we should go see it together. She dmed me the next day (We've been communicating on Instagram) and said she had a lovely time. So, naturally, I tried to schedule a second date.
Here's where she begins leaving me on read and not responding for days at a time. She told me she was really busy through the end of the month but did tentatively give some picture of when I could expect to see her next. The last message I sent her, which has been left on seen since Wednesday, included my phone number which she has yet to use. The last I've heard from her was her liking one of my stories a couple of days ago.
All this sounds like I'm cooked already, but I was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt that she was genuinely busy and did want to see me again since she showed so much initial interest and was so great in person. She also mentioned having ADHD so I figured that could factor in as well.
The problem is, I recently saw she liked an Instagram reel basically making a joke out of the fact that guys won't realize they're just one small part of a big roster after being told a girl is "busy". She also liked some other reels joking about men who don't show they're interested/string you along, implying that she's also being breadcrumbed by some jerk.
I hate so much how dating in your late 20's feels like one big exercise in trickle-down interest. Obviously there's nothing wrong with dating/talking to multiple people at the same time, I mean I've also been doing the same thing. But it sucks to basically have it be confirmed by these reels that I'm a back-up option for when she's bored or not entertaining the guys she's actually interested in.
It's so frustrating to see women complain about the avoidant men not giving them the interest they want while simultaneously making a joke out of ignoring guys who actually are intentional about wanting to date them.
What option do I go with here:
A. just block her and move on?
B. Don't block her but don't send anything and see if she ever gets back to me?
C. Send her the reel and confront her about liking it?
D. Double text and try to make plans again?
It's easy to say "don't waste your energy on people who won't return it" but I'm beginning to think dealing with women having rosters and chasing guys they REALLY want who don't give a shit about them while breadcrumbing the others for entertainment is just a fact of reality for late 20s dating today and anyone I encounter will be doing some variation of this.