Hi Reddit,
About 2 years ago, I met a girl while I was working. We got along really well — had deep conversations and even kissed a few times. The problem was, I already had a girlfriend at the time.
I eventually realized what I was doing was wrong and decided to come clean with her. I told her the whole situation, and she got really upset. She asked me to break up with my girlfriend, but I told her I couldn’t because my feelings for my girlfriend were stronger. After that, I told her I couldn’t keep talking to her and blocked her number.
Even though she was blocked, I’d still see the notifications of her trying to call me. Sometimes I worried it could be something serious, so I called back — but every time, she would just say she wanted to hear my voice, or ask me to leave my girlfriend and get back with her. I always made it clear that wasn’t possible. Eventually, she stopped calling.
Fast forward to now — I just got married 3 weeks ago. She saw it on Facebook, and since then she’s started calling me again, aggressively this time.
Here’s my dilemma:
- Part of me thinks ignoring her is the right thing, because if I answer she might try to rebuild some kind of bond, and I don’t want to give her any false hope.
- On the other hand, I can’t help but feel a bit worried about her. Maybe a single phone conversation could help close things once and for all.
I don’t know what the right move is. Should I keep ignoring, or try to have one final conversation?