My dad has been drinkin for 30+ years almost every day. He also smokes a pack of cigarretes every day, sometimes even 2 packs. He used to drink vodka, but in recent years he has been ordering medical alcohol to take home and diluting it with water.
The man has not worked for 20+ years. He had received money from his sister, now he has a government pension. He is divorced with my mom and had not been living with us for 25+ years. He is 64 now.
He has no social life or hobbies. No friends or anybody. He almost never leaves the house, does not exercise, does not even get up from the couch without a strong necessity. Because of his lifestyle, his legs have become paralyzed, and he can barely walk to the kitchen or toilet with a stick.
He does not communicate with anyone except me and his sister. He eats unhealthy fatty spicy food that is brought to him by couriers. All he does is watch TV from morning until night, and also plays mobile games on his phone.
I have repeatedly tried to influence him, suggested that he quit drinking and smoking, go somewhere, do something. But he is not interested in anything, and he perceives any attempts to convince him otherwise aggressively, and demands that you do not interfere in his life.
In general, I have come to terms with the idea that I can’t do anything with him, I can’t drag him to rehab by force, and I don’t have the money for it. But sometimes I think – maybe something can be done? Still, it's hard to watch silently as your father leads such a life. What would you do?