We've been together for 13 years, and we have an 8 year old daughter. We have had a lot of issues that we have overcome, but this one never seems to get better. Anytime he puts his hands on me (and this is not an exaggeration) he grabs or "grazes" my breasts or crotch. I can't remember the last time he touched my body in a meaningful way without going there. If I call him out on it, he says "I can't help it if I'm attracted to my wife! Most women would love if their husband was attracted to them!" We have sex at least once a week usually (which is an arranged agreement to keep him from starting fights about it most of the time) but if, for some reason, we can't have sex (like sharing a hotel room with our daughter while we're on vacation) he loses his mind, and temper, and yells at me about not being attracted to him, or wanting someone else… things that make no sense when I'm just trying to explain that it's not feasible in that situation. It's made the thought of sex awful to me. I only have sex just to stop him from starting a fight with me. I don't enjoy it and haven't for years now, because it's so contentious. He says it's me and my fault, that I should "act like a wife." When we went to counseling and I brought it up, he told the counselor the same thing he told me, that he shouldn't feel like a "pervert" for wanting to touch his wife. He says I don't spend time with him, but I spend nearly all my free time with him when I'm not working. What he means is, I don't spend all my free time having sex with him. I'm at the end of my rope. I want to stay for my daughter, but I hate being treated like an object. Has anyone made it through a situation like this with their relationship in tact?