so i know this has been asked a bunch of times but figured i’d take my crack at it. this one’s going to be a mouthful but that’s what reddits for right? I (23M) have been with my (22F) gf for 8 months now & it has been an amazing time so far. in these past months we’ve had sex a decent amount of times for a couple that doesn’t live together can, (definitely more oral she’ll give me that multiple times a week from her initiation) but the thing is i am probably the worlds biggest overthinker. being that she’s my first real girlfriend (nothing but many situationships in the past) she’s the first girl i’ve gotten repetitively sexual with obviously which raises the constant thought of “am i doing a good job” during sex. i know what you all are gonna say, yes i have talked to her about it in the most nonchalant way possible to which she reassures me that i have nothing to overthink about.
recently we’ve been having a little more sex idk i guess we’re just getting more frequent as our relationship grows but the last 2 times i have embarrassingly came within around ~5-7 minutes which i was a bit hard on myself for. our other past times we’ve gone say 15-20 (not including foreplay i’ll make sure i please her until she grabs my dick & gives me the go ahead for penetration) but i can’t stop the worry ever since i heard about incompatibility. like i said, her basically being my first for penetrative sex i don’t know how long it takes to fully learn each others bodies, find our rhythms, learn what the margin for error is because of course every sex session isn’t going to be the same as i’ve found out thru these past couple ones running shorter than anticipated. i guess im just trying to ask if there are certain cues or things i can look for that would prove our compatibility besides asking? id like to think our sex is good, we have had sessions that were great but the others like the recents that weren’t quite on par in my opinion only due to the length of time & i worry if its something detrimental from a woman’s perspective, or how much are women willing to put up with a guy semi still learning how to get sex right every time. yes i also agree i sound like an overthinking psycho, but again where else can i let all this out besides here. thank you to those who read this!