My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. Before our wedding, we briefly discussed a prenup but never pursued it. Now, his income has tripled, and he wants me to sign one. What hurts me is that he first met with a lawyer without telling me, and the draft asks me to waive my rights to almost everything — inheritance, alimony, business interests, etc. The only thing I’d have is 50% of joint accounts and property acquired after the marriage. At the moment, we don’t own anything together. The house we live in was put in his name by his parents before we married, and he took over the mortgage.
I feel deeply hurt and confused. He even said that if I made the same or more money than him, he wouldn’t be asking for a prenup. That feels unfair and makes me question where this is really coming from. I understand him wanting to protect himself, but what about me? To me, marriage is about building a future together, sharing both the good and the difficult 50/50.
I’ve always been someone willing to work hard — 60 hours a week if needed. I’m very career-focused, but English not being my first language has made my career path more challenging. I can’t help but feel like this issue could damage our relationship if we don’t handle it carefully.
I’ve scheduled an appointment with a lawyer, but it’s in two days. In the meantime, I’d appreciate any thoughts or advice.