My husband’s family owns a beautiful very large ranch and we (husband (38), myself (33), our daughter) live in one of the houses on the ranch. We have been married a little over two years. I have a good paying job and since I get to live in the house with him rent/mortgage free I pay our electric, internet, groceries, part of daycare costs, family health insurance, household supplies, and I cook/clean. I have a lot of perks like access to horses, traveling with him to beautiful places while he works, and the beautiful ranch. I also on my own accord helped my husband with his business by building a website, creating and maintaining a business email account, running his merchandise booth at expos, creating marketing material, helping book his events/work, making merchandise, creating logos, etc etc. All of which I feel is very valuable work I contribute to his business that is added hours to my day when I also have a corporate remote full time job. I have since stopped doing things for his business since he told me he never asked for my help and he doesn’t need it. I have been told I will never be a real part of his business and we will never share anything financial together.
His parents are planning to buy another piece of land that attaches to the main ranch with a larger house on it and we plan to move there. It needs renovations and since the property will be in a trust like the rest of the properties (and I have been told I will never have my name on any land/house with my husband) I don’t feel comfortable contributing my money to the renovations. I have also proposed that the electric and internet be taken off my plate. I would continue paying for groceries, family health insurance, part of daycare costs, and do the cooking/cleaning. Is this fair……or am I acting spoiled/entitled?