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Sent a text ending things with the guy I’d been seeing for almost 3 months after he bailed on our plans at the last second last night. Over 12 hours no response 🙁
I’m a 35F, matched with a 37M on a dating app back in April, met up within a couple weeks, seeing each other exclusively since mid May, and officially a couple since early July. Things have moved at what some would call a faster pace; met families very soon, two weeks ago we drove 7 hours to stay with his sister & meet her new baby, etc. From the start I’ve approached dating him more seriously/ with more intent because I could tell we had something different. Over the past two weeks felt like my “when you know, you know” moment. I fully feel like I’m falling in love with him. I don’t think he’s at the point yet, which given the newness of the relationship is understandable, and my logical brain knows it’s fine we’re on different time tables. But emotionally I feel like I’m perceiving a rejection that isn’t there and pulling away ever so slightly. We’re both in therapy for various reasons and both admittedly not the greatest at communicating feelings. I’m afraid of scaring him away. But I’m not sure how long I can sit on the feelings of “I love you”. Should I continue to keep this to myself or is this something we should discuss?
I got a text back yesterday. Feels good.
How much slack do you give people who speak English as a second language? I let a conversation die because I didn’t feel she was putting in any effort towards keeping it flowing. It’s possible I pulled the plug too soon, but I wasn’t getting much to work with.
Had my first “fight” with my boyfriend of 7 months yesterday. Realized that I may have abandonment issues from a previous relationship because my mind immediately went to “you ruined things”, “he doesn’t love you” and “he’s going to break up with you now”. I’m sadden by this realization but my boyfriend is sweet and honest, so I’m trusting him and telling myself these thoughts are not real, just coming from trauma.
Had a bad date. Feeling low. Trying to stay positive. Had a healthy breakfast this morning. Gonna work out and go for a run.
Keep your heads up lonely folks!
At a wedding last night (I work in the industry).
I see a man there right after I arrive, and we lock eyes and have the most visceral, gut-punch chemistry. I got goosebumps all over my entire body, and I could tell he prob was having a similar experience because he just broke into a huge smile and we stared at each other for probably 30 seconds. That’s only happened to me 2 other times in my life.
Annnnnd… he was the groom. OOF.
I’m having some very ugly scarcity mindset/internalized misogyny thoughts today.
I know I’m attractive for my age, but I just don’t think men want my age, period. Or if they do, they’re 50+ and emotionally out to lunch, and/or already have their core family established. In the case of my rebound fellow, both.
I don’t blame them. We were all socialized horribly in the 90s and earlier, and biology is a bitch.
Don’t mind me, just having a moment…
I recently made one of the hardest decisions of my life to end my engagement to someone I’d been with for nearly 7 years. Has anyone else gone through this? I would appreciate someone to talk to who maybe has some insight or can just share their experiences. I’m in the process of moving into a new place and feeling the emptiness sinking in
First date yesterday with a guy from Bumble and he smelled like farts. I think I’m ready for another break from the apps lol. I’m tired of the time wasted on stuff like this that would have been an easy “no” had we met naturally in-person.
About a couple of months ago, I went to a singles event and met a woman I wasn’t immediately attracted to. She was a lot younger than me and outside of my preferred age range. I didn’t find her physically attractive off the bat, though she has very nice body and was pretty fit. I loved talking to her so we agreed to go to singles events together and back each other up. We became very good friends quickly. She’s fun, easy going, and an amazing conversationalist.
Now I’m weirdly thinking about asking her out but wondering if the train has moved on. I’m also wondering if I’m the person who needs to know a person better before I feel attracted to them if the physical attraction hook isn’t there from the bat.
Alright, now that’s dang near fall and getting cooler, it’s about time to wrap up trying to find a date for the year, at least for me. The holidays are coming and no one is looking to find a partner when we have holiday plans to worry about.
Siiiigh I’m only getting older with gray hair and my older adult body. God I see what you do for others. Please don’t allow me to find someone after I start aging and I’m not best anymore.
Had a really great first date last night. We hung out for 3 hours and a couple of those were just us making out in the parking lot like we were kids haha.
I always get nervous about when’s the right time to try to kiss someone, but this was a very easy situation to read 😂 Looking forward to hanging out again!
Met a younger guy online and been chatting since 2018/19. We finally personally met last year and been “seeing” each other ever since. The “relationship” is a constant push and pull. A part of me wants more and the other part knows nothing will come out of it. Talk about being in limbo. 😔