I’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks now, and I’m trying to figure out if we might be compatible long-term. I’d love some outside, unbiased perspectives.
About me: I’m early – mid twenties, studying to become a school teacher. I’ve only had one serious relationship before (1.5 years). I’m quite introverted, more of a homebody, and I prefer calm, intimate settings.
About him: He’s early thirties, an attorney and used to DJ during his uni time, but doesn’t really do that anymore (maybe once a year for fun). He’s extroverted, social, likes to travel, and is definitely more active than I am. From what I’ve seen, he’s respectful, charming, and genuinely interested in me. Didn’t push me to do anything and told me he likes my calmness.
Some differences: Yesterday he went clubbing with friends, and he’s also planning to attend an open-air festival (which was arranged before we met). That’s not really my scene, but I appreciate that he’s honest and communicates openly.
He’s also mentioned that he wants kids around 35, which aligns with my desire to eventually settle down, have a family, and date with long-term intentions. But he’s not to eager now, which I kinda am. I don’t want kinds now and get married but I‘d want to date to eventually get married to the guy.
Right now, I’m observing how he’ll behave in the coming weeks.. whether he’s serious about me and whether he balances fun with commitment. Of course, I think it’s normal to go out with friends sometimes, but I want to see if our lifestyles can align.
What do you think? Especially men in their 30s—do these differences seem like something that can work out or do they usually cause problems down the line? Maybe a fun, more outgoing woman would be a better match for him.