So, a friend of mine recently broke off her partner of 4 years and he found another girl already. He's taking things slow and he's loving it.
I'm like damm, then there's me whenever I try and get a date or talk with someone they look bored or think I'm weird or get ghosted or stood up š£š£š£
It's just funny honestly how some people get lucky or meet someone else all of a sudden.
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I think that’s a question most of us want the answer to tbf
Its really based on how quality they are and who they’re talking to. If they’re an amazing person; the person they’re talking to is going always want to respond versus if they suck there’s not much motivation to respond.
Some people just have it like that. My best friend; shes never not on the phone talking/texting a dude.
It all depends. If youāre not picky, especially from the girlās side, it can be easy to find another guy.
However finding a decent guy, now that can take a bit. . .
On the apps everything makes things easier depending on who you are as a person
They don’t call it rizz for nothing.
I have a hard time with finding single people to date but once I go out with them they seldom ghost and often become rather clingy
My first date to she wants a relationship ratio is far above 50%
the other day at was a work and a coworker was chatting with another coworker. she mentioned 3 guys she was currently seeing or dating or talking to, I really dont know, I could only hear parts of the conversation. and I could only think HOW??????? I cannot even have 3 chat conversation with a dude on a dating app, much less MEET 3 men in person.
Wherever I go, there are NO MEN AT ALL or just TEENAGERS or OLD MEN. I even took italian for 2 years. I was with 3 different courses during those 2 years: 2 or 3 guys in their twenties or sixties. my gym, all women. the few men I have met are teenagers or older married men. a couple in their twenties. my hobbies, of course, all women: embroidery, pottery. tin whistle online course I did: a couple of guys in their 20s. where are the guys in their 40s or early 50s? I have no idea.
Jumping from one to another ārelationshipā means they played already few roles at same time. In the end have chosen āthe bestā one.
This is too real, im on the not getting a text back and it hurts, I have met so many people and it never works out it makes me feel cursed lol.
I believe people who quickly get into relationships or are frequently in them have low standards or low self esteem (or both). I have incredibly high standards for myself and my partner. I know my worth and know what qualities I am looking for in a partner. I am looking to marry and not just play around, so I wonāt settle for someone who doesnāt have those qualities iām looking for. Itās just a waste of time. But if i were dating for fun, id def go out with a lot more guys cause why not! It seems that your friend isnāt too picky imo. Nothing wrong with that, just depends on your dating and relationship goals at the time
It depends on how special, outgoing, fun and attractive someone is. That’s it, nothing else.
Just be attractive and don’t be ugly simple as that.
Personality has nothing to do with it. If you’re ugly or average no girl will give you a chance.
Some people have more of the traits that are considered desirable in the dating market: being conventionally attractive, having a high salary, being charismatic, being childfree etc. A personās level of pickiness matters too because the less picky you are, the more options you have.
And lastly, luck plays a role as well. Some people get so lucky that they find their person when they werenāt even looking. But the person whoās trying hard canāt find anyone. Itās like that sometimes.
monkey branching. i have a friend who just did this and we had a huge falling out. it’s one of the reasons why we’re not on speaking terms.
some people are also scared to be alone and always need to be in a relationship. they’ll lower their standards because that’s better than being single.
if you’re very attractive and have the charm/charisma, then you’ll also have an easier time with dating and getting into a relationship.
Iāve found that timing is everything.
I wonder this as well. Iāve been single for a while now (almost 6 years) and my friend has gone through a divorce, a 2.5 year relationship and now sheās engaged to another new man.. all since 2021!
I really do believe there are ārelationship peopleā and I guess non-relationship people or perhaps even just normal people. I donāt know how the relationship people do it, they always have someone and seem infinitely happy. I assume they arenāt picky or they have a personality that compliments a lot of personalities. Also they clearly put some effort into finding a new person and locking them down even if it seems really effortless. Thereās a reason the term serial monogamist exists.
I think it really comes down how picky you are
I knew a girl just like this. I asked her close friends how and why she always has a boyfriend. She said that she takes what she gets. What I considered that to mean, is that she doesnāt mind a low effort man.
I’d say there’s a little bit of skill in it to a certain degree. Like a lot of it is knowing what phase of the attraction cycle you’re in, and knowing how to navigate it to where you want it to be