Just as the title says: what are some of the things you do for yourself that help you get back to your old self after being ghosted? What are some of your heartbreak remedies?
For me, I like to let myself feel my feelings and then dive deep into getting busy with life and spending time with friends. Sometimes I’ll try some new recipes or spend extra time studying, making art, or working out too. I find expanding my mind by trying new things and fulfilling my need for connection with friends and family to be a good reminder that there is more to life and that I am loved, and serves as a solid reset. What about you?
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You don’t, at some point, experiencing ghosting over and over again breaks something inside you making you no longer care. Just gotta experience it more.
Keep letting it out and keep dating! You can’t control the ghosts, maybe see if any of your friends are fortune tellers at least so maybe someone will be able to see the red flags sooner!
When I am single I like 1. Crying, Exercising, and going out! When I look back to when I have time to myself I really am my most ideal person.
Don’t live in the future of what could happen in these relationships. Someone in a relationship right now is probably dealing with a partner that is giving them dutch ovens under the sheets or are fantasizing about their coworker. They’re not always great. Keep being the best you!
When I start feeling like things are about to end with someone, I immediately start planning a trip somewhere. After what happened last time in late July, I booked a New Year’s trip to another country. And after that guy told me ‘I love you’ and then a few days later said ‘I met someone else and want to try with her’ -I already bought tickets, picked a place to stay for a month, and now I’m planning how I’ll spend Christmas and New Year’s there. It totally distracted my brain. Sure, I was sad for a few days first. But the idea of new people, fun times, and drinking wine alone on the beach at night…. So inspiring!
You have to understand ghosting today has been normalized. When we don’t want to reply anymore, we ghost. When we meet someone else, we ghost. Truth being, 80% of conversations on any platform end with one not responding anymore. That’s ghosting. Only 20% i would assume literally end in progressing further or being honest about not wanting to continue things.
It is hard to reject someone – plus, most want to keep their ghostees for option B,C or D. Meaning, they will come back to you days or weeks later, sometimes even months, when option A doesn’t pan out. Telling you they were ‘busy’.
The way ghosters think is simple : i am not interested in this person RIGHT NOW, i am focusing on someone else, BUT if this someone else doesn’t pan out, i will come back to that person, so i will keep them hanging in the loop.
This is when you ghost them back 🤪🤪
I always keep my options open. Unless you’ve had the exclusivity talk, you don’t owe anyone anything. When I started using dating apps, I focused on one woman at a time, big mistake.
This is coming from someone old school, emotionally sensitive who had to addapt.
What is heartbreaking about someone who doesn’t care if you live or die not talking to you? What is there to bounce back from
You gotta take it lightly and keep moving It’s there loss.
You wouldn’t want to date someone who’s willing to do that anyway
You have it covered. Well done!