After all these years he told me that he was 17 when his now wife approached him for the very first time, while he was summer working at her company. Not just approached. He said they took it to the next level the day he turned 18. The very same day. He met his the said high school girlfriend a few months later. So it turns out my sister in law was the first woman he had been with
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My niece is 13 years old, my brother is 35 and my sister in law is 55. Obviously she is doing very well financially and he lives in her shadow. He was often unfaithful, hookups, flings, tinder and I never covered for him. He did all this while throwing her money all around.
I didn't talk with him about it. He is not happy but I am not willing to listen to him. I have my own family, a husband, my kids and I do not support his cheating. She is not a pleasent woman, I try to avoid her as much as I can. She looks down on me, my siblings, my parents. A very toxic person.
She has acces to his emails, social media, medical records, phone. My son is still young, just 7 years old but she doesn't want her daughter to be around her first grade cousin.
My brother and her fight a lot and my niece spends the night at her grandma if it gets ugly. Maternal grandma.
My brother is close with his daughter and she told me some while ago that she knows dad is having "a relationship" with a woman. This woman she talked about is a his ex high school girlfriend. He loved her very much and the 3 of them even went out for a weekend retreat. Mu brother, his daughter and this woman.
I try to not get involved in their mess, but I love my niece a lot and she is an amazing child and suffers. My brother cried in front of her that he loves that other woman, that he is unhappy with his wife and my niece kind of feels its her responsibility to take care of her father.
What to do? My niece begged me to not tell him because he will know I know from her. She believes her father is a victim of her mother and she can do something. She cannot. But what cand I do? I talked to her but I think professional help is needed here. She is getting more and more aware something is very unusual in her family, especially the huge age gap.