Honestly, sometimes it feels like the marriage market has turned into a giant checklist game.
Salary, height, caste, horoscope, family status… swipe left, reject, move on.
Of course, having expectations is normal. We all have them. But somewhere along the line, they’ve gone from reasonable to unrealistic.
Like someone earning 7-8 LPA saying no to a guy at 10-12 because “only 30+ is okay.”
Or someone 5’2 filtering out everyone below 6’2.
Or judging people based on the most filtered version of their photos.
And in all this… where’s the actual talking?
Where’s the part where two people just sit and get to know each other?
What their day looks like, how they handle stress, whether they’re kind, whether they show up when it matters.
It’s scary how easily we’re reducing human beings to labels and digits.
Marriage used to be about finding someone real and building a life together. Now it feels like hunting for a unicorn with perfect stats.
At the end of the day, the package, the height, the bio-data – all of it fades. What stays is how that person makes you feel in the small, boring, everyday moments.
And sadly, we don’t even give each other a chance to reach that stage anymore.
Does anyone else feel like we’ve lost the actual knowing era?