Hello fellow DOT humans
Hope all is well.
I have a dilemma that while I know none of you are my therapist (and believe me they will hear about this as well), I figured it would be good to hear some other thoughts.
I took most of the summer off the apps and singles events and am starting to dip my toes back in. Matched with a guy OLD, we spoke for about 5 days. Then on Thursday he asked for my availability next week and we set a day and a tentative time and said we would talk on Monday because he’s going away this weekend somewhere with limited service.
Since making those plans Thursday night, it’s almost as if my body is telling me to cancel. I have been anxious, I have had weird sleeping and eating patterns. It got to a point yesterday coworkers and then my friends were asking me if I was ok because the whole day and night I could not shake this feeling. It clearly has me questioning a lot, and I’m clearly showing signs of something being off without realizing it. He never said anything that made me feel like it was a red flag. There’s nothing I can think of physically that is turning me off. I genuinely don’t know what’s up.
Usually I’m like an excited nervous for first dates. And I’m usually 50/50 after first dates if we continue on to a second date or not. But something in my gut is screaming to cancel. I have been stood up and unmatched day of before, so I know I would rather say something sooner than later, but the question is how? And also should I wait until he’s back from his trip or do so now?
Thank you in advance-I really appreciate it.