I’m more than a little quiet and in my own head in most facets of life. During sex especially I feel shy and talk almost never. I’m really enthusiastic, initiate regularly, and always want to have sex. I go down on my partner at the slightest hint he wants me to and often do so unprompted.
He finds the sex a bit boring though and wants me to be verbal and more vocal, particularly with dirty talk. How can I best make this transition as a quiet shy person?
It’s not that I don’t possess the language. There’s a healthy sexual fantasy life inside my head and I possess all the vocabulary. He has no idea the coarse words and imagery that run through my mind behind this demure veneer. Sometimes I mutter such things under my breath during sex but he can’t hear them. He wants it much louder and wildly passionate.
I want to satisfy him, enthrall him. How do I be willing to let go of my self-control and push aside this fear of sounding stupid and begin to audibly express the words and thoughts I hide?