I don't understand why he is like this. Whenever throughout our 7 year marriage I was desperately in need of help for example when I had my hand trapped in something and screaming for help, when I was being abused by his family and cried for help to move out, when I really needed him to hold the baby while I was in the toilet while the baby was scarring and I was midway of my bowel movement, he ignored me. I had to scream in the end and his mum came and had to see me half naked on the toilet. If I am in physical danger he will not help, in an emergency he won't be there. But other times he will help out even if I don't ask. He will help with all house work and child rearing but not in an actual emergency. Why?? I don't understand why he ignores me in actual hour if need and emergency? I don't get it? It hurts me so bad and makes me angry and I cannot appreciate the times he actually helps me – because I never asked for the help or needed it.