I’m F, we are in our 30s. My boyfriend is blessed… so despite enjoying anal in past relationships with much smaller men, I’m having a hard time with him so we haven’t done it in quite a while. We have a plug that is fine that we use to simulate DP, but I want it the other way around but no matter how long it’s there or how turned on I am or how much lube we use, the real thing is much harder. Usually doggy is the only way to get it to kind of work but I want more intimate face to face positions. I’ve tried on top but the angle didn’t work. Then I’m left feeling really uncomfortable the next couple days bc of it for what we are able to do which turns me off from trying again. I’m not sure what else to try. I did not have this problem in my past but I’ve been wanting it more and he has been asking me in the middle of fucking when he can have my ass again and I want to but this is quite the dilemma I have here