Hey all
35F here, matched and been talking to this 30M from bumble for a couple of weeks and he asked me out on a date that should be today.
We both have crazy schedules, to each a very different challenge. He suggested to come pick me up "around 12", and I agreed because I don't mind a more loose schedule. My first mistake: I agreed.
Problem is, when someone say "around X" I imagine something like 30 minutes earlier or later, and it was my mistake not to suggest a fixed time. Now, in my region it's pass 1pm, still no sign of him.
I am not super anxious or angry or anything like that, I am just concerned because I never had a date pulling that on me before, and I also understand that he might as well be sleeping at this time because he works pretty much 24/7, so it's not like he just went drinking last night and is still passed out. However, I don't want to be lenient and normalize the idea he can just access me at any time he is up, knowing way too well I had my own weight to lift in order to free the time to meet him. This is date 1, damn it.
What do I do? When 1 turns into 2 hours late, what's the protocol? 😆 do I ignore him? Call him out on it? Be cold? Be warm? Block him?
I really don't know what to do here, but I know what I don't want: I don't want a man who cannot plan, and bw consistent.
PS: I don't have a very broad experience in dating. I'm out of a long-term commited relationship with my only man and I took a sabbatical 1 year to heal and recover from that. After this sabbatical, I started putting myself out there more and received lovely date invites. I met these men either through real life, as some walked up to me and asked for a date, and the rare occasion on dating apps. This particular date I met on an app, and he had been pretty consistent with regular phone calls and check-in texts. This is the first time I'm seeing a red-flag from him 😆