I had a date with a guy I have great chemistry with. We were at my place and kissed for like 5 hours. It was almost non stop – I’m not kidding. He told me twice ”wow you are a great kisser” and I enjoyed our kisses so much. I felt I was the one that took the lead in the kissing which I haven’t done earlier. I have always ”followed”.

A decade ago I had an ex tell me I wasn’t that good at kissing. I thought the same about him but that comment really stuck in my mind.

So you men out there. Do you think this guy really enjoyed our kisses and meant what he said about me being a good kisser? Or would a man be kissing you that much even if the kisses weren’t so good because it’s intimacy? How much should you trust compliments in these situations?


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  2. I think half of a good kiss is good chemistry, the other half is technique. So essentially there are some tricks etc. but a lot is down to chemistry.

  3. Maybe he’s just Canadian and is being polite? Because it’s just 5 hours of non stop kissing so everything is really unclear, if it was 6 hours he’d totally be into you but at 5? Very iffy

  4. Nobody is going to spend that much time kissing someone if they are not enjoying it.

    When someone’s kissing style isn’t compatible with mine, it can be a major ick factor. Like physically I-can’t-keep-doing-this ick… I’m not going to go out of my way to kiss such a person for hours on end.

    If I have good chemistry with someone and our kissing styles are really compatible, I can get totally absorbed in kissing and time can fly.

    To me this is a place where actions speak louder than words. Someone could very convincingly say that you are a great kisser without meaning it, but they’re unlikely to be able to fake it for five hours straight.

    Also, bad kissers are genuinely a thing, but I think they’re pretty uncommon. Much more common is compatibility mismatch. I can’t thing of a situation where it’s really justified for one person to outright call their partner a bad kisser. Maybe bad for them, but that’s a them problem. It doesn’t mean you’re universally bad at kissing everyone. Besides, it’s easily possible to teach someone to kiss better. Fixed mindset is a shitty thing to bring to physical intimacy. Your ex sounds like a jerk.

  5. I’d say you’re a great kisser, some guys love it more than others tho i would say. I personally love it.

  6. Oh yeah I think he meant it. When I was way younger I remember kissing someone for like an hour (was admittedly very tipsy) and it was maximum clutch. No reason to doubt him.

  11. 5 hours of kissing is a terrible sign. He obviously can’t stand kissing you but didn’t know how to tell you. I bet he can’t wait to try to tell you again for another 5 hours. Probably wants to kiss you elsewhere just to be sure that he really can’t stand it 😜

  13. yea the guy definitely enjoyed it, no ones flexing their face muscles for that long unless theyre enjoying it

  15. He enjoys it!

    Also, people have different styles. Sometimes people think the other person is bad at kissing, but the kissing styles are just different. Not a lot of people are actually bad at kissing. And practice matters

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