My gf(27) and I M(32) are having a tough time doing penetrative sex. She goes through a lot of pain whenever we try and we have to stop eventually even before starting. We both feel helpless and don’t have an idea what to do. Tried applying lube(KY) well before penetration and it isn’t helping at all. I have read some solutions online which involves consulting a doctor and testing for solutions involving surgery or having tablets which reduces pain.
My gf is kind of afraid and shy to go see a doctor now and she is pretty much happy with our sex which is oral for now. But I really want to experience penetrative sex with her and we have been committed for 3 years and never been able to experience it for once. She hasn’t done penetrative sex in her life and is very curious and sad(whenever we try, she ends up crying and apologising to me as she is not able to tolerate the pain, which makes me sad too).
We are in a long distance relationship. She is room sharing with her friends in a flat and we spend a week together every month or so.. So, trying everyday is not a solution for us for now.
I hope I will find a solution from here and it works for us. 🙂