Hi, I’m a 27 year old female and I have a question mostly for the men. I have a belief that I really struggle to change perspective on. Growing up in a household where my parents always had arguments and my dad was not very emotionally expressive, I kind of grew to associate marriage with tolerance and cohabitation, not actually love. Like yeah, maybe the women stay in love, but the men, do you really stay in love with your wife for years?
When I see couples on social media or cute marriage stories, I struggle to reconcile it with what I’m used to seeing.. which is after a couple of years there’s no attraction or butterflies or even ‘happiness’ in the household anymore. It’s just husband, wife, yes, but go about your day. No emotional connection or whatever. Sometimes I even feel like the man would probably rate other females he’s not overfamiliar with over his wife. This makes me scared when I think about getting married as I do not want that to be my life at all.
I want to know if I’m absolutely chatting shit, or if this is an actual thing with lots of couples and I need to brace myself for reality.