My first time married ever in life. I was always the one who said I would never get married, so long story short I need advice from anyone at this point in my life .. losing my shtt over here… married 6 years when I first met her .. her family were okay in life but her father not so good hiding from people he owed money too and a lot of it .. this was after we met and I had lived with her family a few months in order to help her dad build a new restaurant, I ended up getting my own superintendent job from a friend of the dad, mind you there’s only one other brother and one sister out of many of them who actually got the same position in another building and have been great at it for 10+ years I am going on my 5th year at the building, fast forward me and her yes we have had plenty of fights and bad arguments and trust me it’s been the kind of fights that test your relationship and time after time we make it through and come out strong together, fast forward to today , I have struggled with life , I never knew how to be the perfect husband or at least close to it for her , we have been through so much , and I’ve failed her yes I have I can admit that and I know that and have realized that , I’ve struggled financially the last few years because she always installed in my head help my dad help my dad help my dad and at the time one business turned into now 4 businesses and one empanada business on the side… each restaurant one of the brothers or sister manages there’s 3 brothers and 2 sisters including my wife and one brother the oldest one is only a half brother from the father side who by the way never received approval of the family because of his dark past trying to molest one of the sisters ,, but they forgave him and he ended moving in with them after he was older … this happened when they were young .. kids … he was a teen and she was a little girl like come on … but anyways fast forward 4 businesses later and all they ever offered me was as a porter job for the restaurants ,, I did it happily for years and never complained about it until this year where I stopped doing it to focus on something worth my time and money.. of course she got upset at me and told me it’s a job be grateful and I am but I don’t want to be the cleaner boy forever I have a construction background and have helped them with everything.. every single time they’ve called I’ve ran and helped and did my part … we had bad fights and arguments recently and it’s always been here crying and screaming at the top of her lungs and in the apartment where I’m the superintendent and my tenant live at .. so of course I always left and went for a walk but that time I left and didn’t answer her simply because yes she was becoming toxic and putting her hands on me .. she ended up leaving and taking her clothes and her things from the apartment and is currently still living with her mom … and at the time I understand I was not at my best I was at my lowest and I failed as a husband ,brother ,son , all of the above … it’s been 4 months and yes we were talking on and off and ever time I come around her I get her to fall and things become great ! But the last time she was on her period and something so simple .. I was doing uber and didn’t call her back because I had to use the bathroom and couldn’t find one .. she got so dramatic and hung up and when I went to the mothers house and told her I’m outside she went crazy and told me dare you to come and knock and come so I can embarrass you infront of her mom and sister who were there at the time … told me a bunch of mean things I had flowers for her and bunch of things planned …fast forward today my birthday is on the 26th and we haven’t spoke for one week …. And I have been so desperate to go and see her but I feel as I must be strong and have her miss me a bit because I’m always the one going to her job (family business) to see her and sit down and eat with her … and UPDATE!! I am now doing car rentals and have a moving company that’s My own and have been working and out and getting fit and she has seened everything I have been doing and how much I’ve growned and I even took out my own car now the one we have was a joint car for us both and since when she left she uses the dads car to get around since he has 2 and everyone in her family has a car so on her side there’s cars to use as for me my mother few months ago we found out has kidney failure and goes to dialysis and i also need a vehicle incase anything and for me to work etc.. so I know it must be a big bother on them for her to be there in the house living but not at the same time because she’s family … so last argument she said what she said and called me a little boy and she wanted to separate again and she’s single etc etc like she’s always said from the beginning but she’s always been loyal same as me….. we are both 33 … we’ll no I turn 33 on the 26 this month so literally next week and we haven’t spoken for a week .. my questions is should I reach out or let her miss me and wonder ?? The only thing that sucks is that my brother in law asked for my help at one of the restaurants not the one that she manages another location .. I also do skim coating design effects on the wall so I have to go back tonight to finish the wall I already went one day last week and did everything.. yes the family knows I am a power house and I get sht done quick !! They always said that and loved that about me !! So I have to go back tonight and I know she will be able to see me on the cameras on her phone … which sucks .. she sees me but I can’t see her … fck!! I know lol it suckss… my questions is what do I do ??? Should I go and get my wife like I always done .. or do I let her miss me and see if she try’s to look for me on my birthday!??????