My children have jobs in the same city, but one is a 40-45 minute drive from home, while the other will travel up to an hour and fifteen minutes daily if they both lived there. Should they rent a house in the city or continue to travel from home? Living at home would save them money, but it would be a stressful journey for the one who travels further.
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Well, it sounds like you’re happy for them to stay home, so I’ll go with “whichever they prefer and makes financial sense”.
All my commutes were 60 to 90 minutes. You get used to it.
Is there a typo in OP as the durations and “there” are confusing?
If you are happy for them to live at home, then let them decide. They are obviously adults, so its not your decision.
What do they want to do?
If you’re happy for them to stay at home then it’s up to them.
I’m assuming we are talking about adults here?
I would never say they *should* stay in your house, they might value the different lifestyle of living independently.
*You’re* their parent, what do *you* think?
>Should they rent a house in the city or continue to travel from home?
That should be entirely their decisions to weigh the pros and cons, I’m assuming they’re adults as you mentioned renting a house. It’s very common for people to commute for an hour or slightly more, IMO it’s not that long.
I wish I could have stayed at home because I would’ve saved a lot of money, but unfortunately not all of us are blessed with good family and home environment. All my friends who live at home with parents have saved enough for house deposits within 2yrs.
I suppose the decision lies with each of them but, if you’re supportive of them staying home and they are leaning more towards that then it definitely gives them a leg up to save a little…
What I do have to say, forgive me, but a 75 minute commute is not exactly the end of the world, it’s actually pretty bog standard, particularly if they’re travelling to an area that is economically promising for them and they can build on their opportunities…
I know everybody wants to work at home now but the desire outweighs the availability massively.
Why would it be a stressful journey ? I used to commute for 2.5 hrs after I moved from north London to east London and most recently for 2 hours after I moved to West Sussex where everything is so far and you are screwed if you don’t drive . If they have a goal in mind , for example buying their own property or saving for something else , then they have to keep that goal in mind and don’t question the things they have to do to achieve it .
They’re adults, let them make their own decisions.