A little bit ago I (24F) was talking to a guy (26M) that I’ve been seeing casually for a while. I’m not really sure how the conversation started, but we somehow ended up talking about how different people like different levels of roughness in the bedroom, and he began telling me about experiences that he had and how he likes really freaky women. This isn’t the first time that I’ve heard him, along with other men, tell me this. This particular guy has even told me in a roundabout way that I’m not very freaky.
I’m definitely someone who enjoys sex and I’m open to trying new things, but I’d also consider myself as being rather shy and submissive. I’m not someone who knows how to do a lot of dirty talk, or is good at taking control, or is going to do gymnastics in the bedroom, and I’m definitely not the type of person that is going to demand for someone to slap the shit out of me. I kind of wish that I was more outgoing, and fun, and confident, and seductive, and freakier, but I guess that I’m not those things. I just want to be better at sex overall. Then again, the more that I think about it, the more that I realize that the most “outrageous” thing that this guy has ever asked me to do was to watch porn together, and I was up for it, but he hasn’t came up with much more than that.