To be completely honest, I may give up when it comes to finding someone. Between in-person events or apps, it's downright discouraging to be ignored / ghosted when attempting to connect with someone anymore.

I've had the same experience(s) across the board when it comes to apps such as eHarmony, Boo, PoF, Hily, Hinge, Duet, and OkCupid. I am sure there may be one or two other apps, but at this point I am too frustrated to even care. What I don't understand is, why send a match request and then not bother to even attempt to communicate? Facebook Dating alone, I have three matches that range from 1 month, up-to 3 months with not even a peep. The one communication I get finally, was literally just a "Yuppp" to a question I asked 1 month ago.

Is it just an epidemic at this point that a lot of us are facing? Do women (I am sure quite a few men are like this too) make it a game to see how may matches / likes they can get, and put in the bare minimum or no effort in at all anymore? I am 33 years old, the one and only relationship I cared to have had, ended after 12 years (widowed). I don't want to play games (maybe a boardgame / video games… lol), I am seriously looking. I guess in general, I just don't understand.

Anyways, sorry… I will get off my soapbox now and go-on with my own business. Thanks for allowing me to vent.


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  2. It’s called having endless possibilities. They matched with you but a few minutes / later they matched with someone else they find more interesting.

    Some are just looking for atention / validation.
    Some are cheating.
    Some are looking for instagram followers.
    Some aren’t over their ex.
    Some don’t know what they want.
    Tons of Bots.
    Tons of Scammers.

    Women get tons of likes daily which make them think they can do better.

    Work on yourself, hit the gym, learn a new hobby ( Guitar works very well), make your self more interesting. Confidence plays a huge role when it comes to dating. Just my 2 cents.

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