My husband keeps gaslighting how I feel about a particular situation at work. Last October I caught him having an emotional affair with one of his female employees. He ended things the second he was caught and life’s been a roller coaster since then. But since this happened I have had access to his messages and I’ve noticed how a select few female employees constantly text him unrelated work stuff. There is one specifically she’s pretty young and seems dumb but I am so sick of it. A few examples of her messages are a couple times she sent pictures of herself. They were not special but I thought it was weird of this girl to text someone’s husband pictures. He never responds to non work messages but she will respond with thanks for leaving me on read. I find the tone of her messages to be flirtatious and to comfortable for my liking. My husband constantly tells me that this is silly and she’s a silly 20 year old who doesn’t know how to act. Last week I called his work and she happened to answer when she asked who it was I said his wife and she said oh and started giggling. I don’t know what to think of this. My husband is constantly telling me that there is nothing to worry about and there around boundaries but I feel like there are none. I am realizing he is the problem. I fear he is not creating firm boundaries at work and enjoys the flirtatious nature of this girl. I may also just be overly sensitive due to last year situation. I am just so over it I don’t know how to get through to him to make him understand how her behavior makes me uncomfortable. Would anyone like to give me some suggestions?