Have any of you endured the strains of a marriage falling apart due to your own personal traumas from childhood coming to the surface after being married?
My wife and I are in our 30s, but we definitely have our fair share of trauma from when we were young. And we have definitely been struggling in our marriage as a result of those traumas coming to the surface when tensions are high.
Honestly, looking back I do feel like a large contributing force of my getting married was pressure from family that opted to apply pressure on both of us even though we may not have been ready necessarily…
That said, I’ve still tried my best to try and be there for her as a provider, as well as trying my best to be direct about issues, but I feel like we just don’t…argue well? If that’s a thing??
She did individual counseling in the past, I’m in it right now, we are in marriage counseling together right now (although I don’t know if it’s helping and she is on the same boat as me in that, granted it’s only been like two months so maybe it’s too soon to say?)
But yeah…any of you that feel like their marriages struggled/failed due to baggage from your younger years/ family related trauma?
Would be nice to know that I’m not alone and, if this indeed fails, that there is hope on the other side of all this…