Throwaway account hope I don't dox myself. Apologies for the long post and if this seems silly and petty but small of an issue as it seems, it is genuinely affecting our relationship. 4 year relationship. Shes a tattoo artist and works from home, going in at random intervals for the week to her studio to sit down and tattoo for a few hours at a time. You have to get into uncomfortable positions for long periods, maintain conversation and social etiquette, so it must have a certain level of exhaustion associated with it and I understand that.
I work two jobs as a chef and a maintenance worker for a hotel. Chef is self explanatory. Other job entails, running up and down stairs all day with HEAVY equipment and fixing problems, crawling into tight spaces, driving is very occasional maybe twice a week for 30 mins. I do 50 hour weeks. She complains she can only sleep in her own bed and wants me to go to her house every time we see eachother after work. My bed is very comfortable, but it's been hot in the summer in my room, so I suggested once winter rolls around, we can leave the fan off and snuggle and things will be better. It just seems a bit unreasonable to me that I have to go out of my way to go to her house every time we are together, considering what both of our job situations are like. She even said to me that her job is more exhausting than mine (lol?) prompting me to get a bit pissed off. I didn't respond to her yet but I was wondering what I should say.
We are saving to move in together, as everything else in the relationship is going well and we are definitely madly in love and aside from this she really is a caring and unselfish person. This particular situation is starting to annoy me a bit though. It's like she doesn't think I appreciate her work and just care about my own recovery time over the relationship. I work so hard and I need to be at my house sometimes and would like for her to be there too and not just see her once a week when I have energy. I suggest things to help her sleep here but she just disregards it immediately. She has slept fine here before also this is a new development and she also complained she didn't sleep good at her own house when alone before, so I think it is just an excuse to be in her own space all the time.
TL;DR – girlfriend works less than me and wants me to exclusively go to her place to be together every time because suddenly she cannot sleep in my bed
What do you think I should say? Do I just sacrifice a bit longer for her until we move in together? Or do I confront her with my thoughts? I just don't want to have an argument…