UPDATE: I told my parents. They want me to move back and I am going to move back home. Probably put the house up for sale and go from there. Thank you everyone❤️
My Husband and I have been together for 7 years and married for 5. We have two kids ages 4 and 3. A little bit of background.. he owns a construction company, we both do. I help with the computer, invoices, bank side of it and he is at the job sites, etc. He doesn't speak super good English, so I do a lot of the translating. Not just for work, but for everything I handle everything at our Home (kids appts, insurance, bills, etc) everything needed to run a home I am in charge of and remember. His job is very demanding and hes gone for weeks at times, so I understand my role and I am fine with it. I just wish when he was home he would be more present and helpful, but to him its all about money and work. He has been more upset recently because I have not been wanting sex as often. Honestly I barley want sex I never think about it anymore. I am so busy with work, the kids, my other work, the house, my personal time (reading, playing nintendo, etc). By the time the kids fall asleep I do too. He says he is a man and men have needs -_- idc if he masturbates, but even that apparently isn't helping him because hes still mad with me all the time for not wanting sex.
Anywayyy.. he has slapped me before. A year ago my Mom was visiting and she was upstairs with the kids and we were downstairs arguing about how I forgot to send an invoice or something like that and he was yelling and I normally do not yell, but I was just so fed up that I yelled back at him and said something like, "I DO EVERYTHING IM FUCKING TIRED AND WHY CANT HE DO IT." and then he slapped me across the face, hard. I was immediately embarrassed and I told him to leave and go stay at his brothers and he left. I did not tell my Mom, I just said we argued. He didn't apologize right away, he said he barley touched me that he did it because it was the only way I would listen. I was shocked honestly that he said that, that he hit me and thought it was ok.
Fast froward to this past weekend. We have gotten over that first slap we talked worked on it. It was my birthday weekend. My parents were visiting and sisters all staying at my house. We went to the fair Saturday and we were all drinking. I was having a great time! My Husband and I got back around 2:30am (my Mom was already home she got back around 12 to relieve the babysitter). This is where I kind of remember what happened. We were upstairs and I was changing in my PJs to go to bed because I was obviously drunk and so tired. He wanted to have sex, but I did not want too. I said I was tired I just want to sleep. He got upset and starting saying how he's tired of always asking me for sex and I never want to have sex and that we should just separate and get a a divorce and I got pissed because ITS MY FUCKING BIRTHDAY and he telling me all this, so I agreed and said Yes lets get a divorce I'm so fucking over this and then I'm pretty sure he slapped me.
The longer the time goes by I keep trying to think about what happened. Right when I woke up the next day I texted him (he went to sleep in the other room) and I said why did you slap me? Because when I woke up that is what I remembered and he repalied, "no te pege solo para que pienses." and then I said what? and he said, "Yo no te pege, apenas te toque." (which basically means I didn't hit you, I barley touched you). So, now I'm thinking he said he barley hit me the first time he slapped me and he slapped me hard that time I was sober it was the middle of the day I remember CLEARLY. So, him telling me this now like I am pretty sure he did. I know I was drunk, but I'm pretty sure I remember it happening.
Since that day its been 2 days and he hasn't apologized or anything… my birthday passed I turned 31 and he didn't get me a cake nothing. Didn't say Happy Birthday to me. I am shocked I figured even just a cake and to sing happy birthday with the kids to me. Nothing!!!! I just don't know what do I do. I have not told my parents. I have not told anyone, I only told my therapist the first time it happened. I am just at a loss really.